tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6688024590083115970.post2147627428941477223..comments2013-04-24T10:00:00.435-04:00Comments on 18 Months to the Altar: I Need a Man!Michael Reneehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14687585236727203398noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6688024590083115970.post-66603823227383213032011-03-07T19:40:34.949-05:002011-03-07T19:40:34.949-05:00I'm really not struggling with that. Luckily, ...I'm really not struggling with that. Luckily, I have been surrounded by some great examples. My grandfather and grandmother had this type of relationship as did my step-father and his wife. Still, the question is how do we navigate this in 2011. My best friend and his wife as well as two very close friends in Atlanta did and do operate in this way. From the outside looking in it seemed to work like this. The husbands act as head of household and their wives are in a role that I call Chief Operating Officer. No decision is final until it has the COO's stamp of approval. Also, there appears to be an absence of ego. In all cases, the husbands were as invested if not more so in the success of their wives. I have to admit that I have consciously surrounded myself with these types of couples so that I have a balance with what I have seen and experienced. By maintaining my relationships with these, in my opinion, successful couples I feel like I'm running with the big dogs. Instead of spending my time in the company of couples that don't prject an image that I aspire to, I'm continually encouraged to shoot for higher.Michael Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14687585236727203398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6688024590083115970.post-89475073406254449822011-03-07T14:40:55.205-05:002011-03-07T14:40:55.205-05:00How do we, as strong black women, reconcile the &q...How do we, as strong black women, reconcile the "need" for a man to be the head of our household, yet expect him to be supportive of us taking the world by storm? How do we reconcile wanting to be our ownselves, yet put someone else (who doesnt' even share our gender DNA)in charge of our ultimate final say? I mean, what are we really asking for here? These are questions to really consider. I'm sure we'll all say "I'm not asking or expecting anyone to be the boss of me!" :-) Yet, in MAN-SPEAK, what ARE we saying? I really want to know. You women out there who have really close guy friends... tell me. What do THEY hear when we say, I want a man to be supportive, but to remember that I can support myself?angelgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09024385414303910103noreply@blogger.com